Fear
Fear has a protective function. It may help us stay away from danger, slow
down, and get more help and resources before proceeding. However, when we ignore our fear, it may grow
into a monster. In tackling fear, we
need to take small steps. Small steps
help us gain confidence. Small steps
help us gain control.
Rejection
Feeling rejected is gut-wrenching. We are social; we want to fit in and
belong. When feeling rejected, we need
to learn to love ourselves, to take good care of ourselves, to get involved in
physical activities, and slowly get back into a community that accepts.
Grief
Grief is a normal response to losing
someone dear or something familiar. We
attached ourselves to nurturing a relationship and meaningful things. Feeling numb, lost, sad, angry, anxious,
confused, disoriented, and maybe at times, deep longing is part of the
experience of grief. Grieving people
need a place to be sad, experience what it means to lose, reorganize
themselves, and find meaning in the experience.
Moving On
Before one can move on to something
greater, one needs to embrace something smaller and realistic. We need to face the pain of goodbyes, making
room for hellos, express heavy emotions, experience positive emotions with good
friends, forgive, envision the future, find time and space to heal and take
actions.
