Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Handling Difficult Emotions II

Fear
Fear has a protective function.  It may help us stay away from danger, slow down, and get more help and resources before proceeding.  However, when we ignore our fear, it may grow into a monster.  In tackling fear, we need to take small steps.  Small steps help us gain confidence.  Small steps help us gain control.



Rejection
Feeling rejected is gut-wrenching.  We are social; we want to fit in and belong.  When feeling rejected, we need to learn to love ourselves, to take good care of ourselves, to get involved in physical activities, and slowly get back into a community that accepts.


Grief
Grief is a normal response to losing someone dear or something familiar.  We attached ourselves to nurturing a relationship and meaningful things.  Feeling numb, lost, sad, angry, anxious, confused, disoriented, and maybe at times, deep longing is part of the experience of grief.  Grieving people need a place to be sad, experience what it means to lose, reorganize themselves, and find meaning in the experience.


Moving On
Before one can move on to something greater, one needs to embrace something smaller and realistic.  We need to face the pain of goodbyes, making room for hellos, express heavy emotions, experience positive emotions with good friends, forgive, envision the future, find time and space to heal and take actions.

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